Deacon Greg pointed me to this today. The interesting thing is that Reagan was divorced and it seems as if he was looking to make sure that his son, Mike, didn’t make the same mistakes in marriage that he did.
An excerpt from Letters of Note:
There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn’t take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music. If you truly love a girl, you shouldn’t ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.
Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
I remember the wise words of Deacon Nicholas Mazzei from my childhood parish to a married couple at their wedding:
“Marriage is not a 50-50 partnership. Marriage is a 100%-100% partnership. Each partner has to give 100% of themselves to the other always. If one’s only giving half of who they are then they withhold the other half. And that’s no way to have a marriage.”
Today go and find your husband or wife if you are married and let them know that they are loved. And pray for those who are lonely or in troubled marriages.